Mood swings may seem something very petty, but they are more serious than that, especially when they start affecting our social interaction or work. There are certain people who tend to think that mood swings are external but this is not true, because mood swings have their own clinical basis. Before talking about how to cope up with mood swings, let us explore the causes. Hormones are a major cause, so if it’s temporary for you, just handle those phases with care, but if it is persistent, take a doctor’s help. Another reason may be stress. So, you have to find ways in order to relieve your stress. Again, irregular sleeping patterns may also lead to mood swings, so you must take care of the quality of sleep and the sleep timings. Also, excessive alcohol or caffeine intake may be a cause. Now that you have some of the most common causes of mood swings, here are some ways to deal with this problem. Get good amount of sleep If you are in serious need to control mood swings, just forget everything and sleep. Sleep in the best way to do away with crankiness, and as Dalai Lama rightly puts it, ‘sleep is the best meditation’. Eat healthy and eat regularly How do you feel when you are hungry? I do not need to tell you the answer, right? Right now, I would like to talk about the type of food you eat. There are some foods that cause depression, such as fatty food, processed food, food containing large quantities of sugar, and so on. Since the food we eat has a considerable effect on our mental condition, it is very important to take care of what we are eating, in order to manage mood swings. This is what I usually do on a daily basis to take in healthy amounts of organic fruits and vegetables. It is needless to say that you must limit your consumption of caffeine and alcohol. For me, it was immensely difficult since I was madly in love with coffee, and could not even think of beginning my morning activities without sipping on a cup of coffee. But gradually, when I started having mood swings, my physician told me to cut short on coffee. It was like taking half of my heart away from me. But I have compromised a lot. Previously 6 to 7 cups of coffee was normal for me, but now I have brought it down to just 1 to 2 cups (a drastic compromise indeed!). Alcohol was not an issue for me as I am a non-alcoholic person, but for those who have a penchant for alcohol, I would advise them to remain within limits. Drink water Water can bring down the chances of any disease, leave aside mood swings. I am sure you have been advised by many to drink lots of water. Do not ignore the advice, but actually help yourself to lots of water daily. After you get up in the morning, the first thing that you should have is water (and not tea, coffee or any other beverage!). Always keep a bottle of water handy near you, so that you can always drink water randomly, which will fulfill your water requirement. Exercise Like drinking water, this is also a very common piece of advice, which is again commonly ignored. Exercising helps both the mind and the body. The most important thing about exercising is to search for those particular activities which you enjoy doing, so that when you are exercising, you will not feel like being pushed to do a difficult and seemingly impossible task. For instance, if you enjoy being in the company of nature, you may opt for cycling, hiking, bike riding, or simply walking. Remember that exercising does not mean that you will always have to do serious workout. You may also go for swimming, if you enjoy it. Consult a doctor If your mood swing has become a persistent issue, I would suggest that you consult a doctor. Are you one of those who are against seeing a doctor for such issues? Then think again. When you have mood swings you do feel […]


I am really happy in my life. I think this is the best way to start this write up! Whenever I talk to myself, the only thing that I tell myself is “Jess, you are a lucky, gal! You’ve got a gem of a hubby in Ted and wonderful children in Beth and Clara!” I know there’s a lot who are happier than me, and a lot who are not as happy as I am! I cannot say I don’t care about others, simply because I do care and a person with a happy life really makes my day! You know the first and foremost thing that you need to do to keep your life and days wonderfully happy is feeling satisfied with the life you have, and feeling content with whatever you have got. I have done so, and frankly speaking that has been the secret of my happy life of late. Previously, I used to lead my life just for the sake of leading it. It was just a routine life – comprising of my household duties, my office hours, and that’s it. However, then I thought of changing it, much due to one of my colleagues who had taken a “how to lead a happy life” course. She changed my view towards life. She taught me to set goals for my life. It’s not that I wanted to set goals of summiting Mt. Everest or to be an astronaut. I started setting little goals, and made sure that the goals I set for myself are in synch with the life that I lead with my family. Penning down the day to day events, moments of grieves and ecstasies and the likes, and trying to achieve little things like preparing a never tried before dish, or designing the birthday card for Ted and my daughters, made all the difference. It changed the meaning of my life. I started to make friends. No, do not let alarm bells ring in your stomach. It’s not about going for an extra marital relation or something like that. It is pure and simple friendship. Now it might either involve making new friends of various ages through social media sites, or reviving the old friendships, finding out the old, forgotten friends of yesteryears and school days. They make wonders. It did for me, and I am sure it will do the same for you as well. Previously, I used to compare myself with the ones who are more affluent than me. This comparison used to poison my mind, and did all the damage. Not anymore! I stopped comparing with others, and refrained myself from setting unrealistic standards. I started to be true to myself, shrugging off the objectives that I will never be able to meet, and instead concentrating on the ones that I will be able to achieve. This gave me the boost, which made my life happier and with a lot of challenge that I love to accept. Another great secret to be happy is to spend lots and lots of time with your family. Well, I understand that often it is not possible given the demands of your job, if you are working. But if you maintain a proper schedule, you can definitely find out some time for your family. The smile that you can bring on your kids’ faces simply by being with them, will definitely make you happy. Try to spend at least some time amidst greenery. It opens up your mind and makes you rejuvenated and happy. I have a small garden and daily in the morning I spend around 10 to 15 minutes along with my husband and children there. It makes all of us refreshed. We also get some scope to connect with each other. Another exclusive way to be happy is to care for somebody who is less fortunate than you. It might be a fellow human being or an animal which needs love and care. I started visiting an old age home with my elder daughter a few years back and still continue to do so, doing whatever little we can do at our end to help the elderly and the aged. Think […]