I am really happy in my life. I think this is the best way to start this write up! Whenever I talk to myself, the only thing that I tell myself is “Jess, you are a lucky, gal! You’ve got a gem of a hubby in Ted and wonderful children in Beth and Clara!” I know there’s a lot who are happier than me, and a lot who are not as happy as I am! I cannot say I don’t care about others, simply because I do care and a person with a happy life really makes my day! You know the first and foremost thing that you need to do to keep your life and days wonderfully happy is feeling satisfied with the life you have, and feeling content with whatever you have got. I have done so, and frankly speaking that has been the secret of my happy life of late.
Previously, I used to lead my life just for the sake of leading it. It was just a routine life – comprising of my household duties, my office hours, and that’s it. However, then I thought of changing it, much due to one of my colleagues who had taken a “how to lead a happy life” course. She changed my view towards life. She taught me to set goals for my life. It’s not that I wanted to set goals of summiting Mt. Everest or to be an astronaut. I started setting little goals, and made sure that the goals I set for myself are in synch with the life that I lead with my family. Penning down the day to day events, moments of grieves and ecstasies and the likes, and trying to achieve little things like preparing a never tried before dish, or designing the birthday card for Ted and my daughters, made all the difference. It changed the meaning of my life.
I started to make friends. No, do not let alarm bells ring in your stomach. It’s not about going for an extra marital relation or something like that. It is pure and simple friendship. Now it might either involve making new friends of various ages through social media sites, or reviving the old friendships, finding out the old, forgotten friends of yesteryears and school days. They make wonders. It did for me, and I am sure it will do the same for you as well.
Previously, I used to compare myself with the ones who are more affluent than me. This comparison used to poison my mind, and did all the damage. Not anymore! I stopped comparing with others, and refrained myself from setting unrealistic standards. I started to be true to myself, shrugging off the objectives that I will never be able to meet, and instead concentrating on the ones that I will be able to achieve. This gave me the boost, which made my life happier and with a lot of challenge that I love to accept.
Another great secret to be happy is to spend lots and lots of time with your family. Well, I understand that often it is not possible given the demands of your job, if you are working. But if you maintain a proper schedule, you can definitely find out some time for your family. The smile that you can bring on your kids’ faces simply by being with them, will definitely make you happy.
Try to spend at least some time amidst greenery. It opens up your mind and makes you rejuvenated and happy. I have a small garden and daily in the morning I spend around 10 to 15 minutes along with my husband and children there. It makes all of us refreshed. We also get some scope to connect with each other.
Another exclusive way to be happy is to care for somebody who is less fortunate than you. It might be a fellow human being or an animal which needs love and care. I started visiting an old age home with my elder daughter a few years back and still continue to do so, doing whatever little we can do at our end to help the elderly and the aged.
Think positive, do not heavily depend on TV, but explore things that are creative. These secrets are going to change your life, as they have done mine.